Letting go doesn’t mean to ignore or forget. It doesn’t mean that experience or loss didn’t happen or shouldn’t have bothered you in the first place. Like some will say and have told me too.
Letting go is moving forward with the reality of it. Moving forward forever changed and wiser because of it.
Accepting the sadness that overrides the initial and even justifiable anger. Having greater capacity and compassion to relate to others. And also increasing your awareness of how to better guard your heart going forward.
The scar comes from love, so you are a loving person. Something always to be proud of.
Loving someone is never wrong.
The love will need to change, but it can and should remain. We are called to love others as we love ourselves.
“One of the teachers of the Law of Moses came up while Jesus and the Sadducees were arguing. When he heard Jesus give a good answer, he asked him, “What is the most important commandment?” Jesus answered, “The most important one says: ‘People of Israel, you have only one Lord and God. You must love him with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.’ The second most important commandment says: ‘Love others as much as you love yourself.’ No other commandment is more important than these.”
Mark 12:28-31 (CEV)
Love heals. Hate hurts.
Moving on doesn’t mean it didn’t matter, it means you’re still here without it or them for a reason. Keep going.
I look at physical hearts with ultrasound for a living. I can see the visual difference between how a heart squeezes with a scar versus without. The person with a scar is usually forever changed because of the event that created it.
Let these events make us all better and more aware of ourselves and others. Also, aware of how short our time here can be and how we are all imperfect and in need of grace.
Let’s keep eternity in mind, like God has planned and made possible for us all.
Ask Him for help. Feel Him closer than ever in your pain and remember that He’s with you just as close in the days after.
You are loved.